A silly little thing called love.....

Recently I have come in contact with various situations regarding commitment, what in fact love is, and what exactly it's supposed to look like. I've always had this ideal picture of what I wanted in my head and have observed several relationships personally that I had in fact thought to be nothing less than perfect. The last week has provided some unmentionable news that has shaken me to the core, to the point of completely reconsidering all of the things I had wanted in a husband.....yet I'm not completely ready to throw in the towel.

Today's society promotes the instant gratification of casual sexual relationships, but never addresses the commitment that is supposed to go with it. Why else do you think the heartbreak exists? So many people are afraid to truly commit because of all the casual flings they've had along the way that didn't work or their heart got broken. That doesn't deter people from marrying anyway, but the sanctity of marriage is near history. Sad, well yes.....absolutely true, why yes indeed. So here's my thoughts, my wants......and I refuse to think that these concepts are extinct.

I am a member of the social group identified as "single." Regardless of the walk of life you have enjoyed or suffered, singleness is a stage of life all humans have to go through at one point or another. I look forward to the freedom that is found in being a co-dependant partner to a man that has made the mutual commitment with me to partner through the rest of our lives in that archaic social system known as [gasp]: marriage. As someone who doesn’t agree with society's new trend of "starter marriages" and rampant divorce, the desire to find a husband, in my case, a Godly-husband, is quite challenging yet I remain hopeful.


As a young woman of a Christian faith (struggling at times, yes), I desire a Godly-husband, a type of male character that is perfectly modeled after the Lord of our faith: Jesus Christ. The man I hope to marry is not perfect, far be it. He is quite human, and as such, he will do or say things that may not always be right. Yet he stands out from the rest of the world's men for two simple reasons: he is a man of faith who lives his life according the word of God, and he is a man of purpose. A husband, contrary to popular belief, doesn’t necessarily have to be the breadwinner of the family. He is one half of a two-part equation. He is responsible for loving his wife, respecting her, and in many instances being selfless. He demonstrates humility, sacrifice, faith, compromise, courage, strength, and commitment to the woman he loves by putting THEIR needs before his own and striving to love her unconditionally everyday. His responsibility is vast as he will bear the burden of being the spiritual covering, the protector, and leader of his household. He does not have super powers, nor does he have to be rich and famous. His virtue lies in his ability to step up and lead in the role in which he is called, and may often not want to do. A Godly-husband, enjoys life, spends time with his family, pursues his own interests, and does a lot of things like any other man; only the clear difference is that this man does it all for the glory of God. Whether it be rejoicing in a success at work, having boys only time, spontaneous mini vacation with the ole’ wiferooski, whatever it is, this man commits all that he does before this Heavenly Father and as such he is blessed in his purpose. The Godly-wife reciprocates the same traits and virtues and is called to respect, support and encourage her husband.

The couple will have areas of opportunity to blossom in adulthood, and will do so with the encouragement and support of a Godly-partner. Two people of like minds and faith can create a marriage founded on the right principles and have the ability to overcome the challenges of marriage to make a life long vow; as well as partner with each other to fulfill their life's goals. When selfishness or self-centeredness exists, it's a breeding ground for trouble and resentment. So I ask, honestly, are these things too much to ask for in a spouse? Not just for me, for any of you…….male or female. Why is it so hard for us to love and trust one another, and to live by the vows made on that special day?

PS: Sam, remind me to never blog again when I’m bothered by something…….I come off a bit snippy.